What ex-Olori must do to remarry –Elebuibon, Yoruba traditionalist By Bolatito Adebayo
in
the wake of the breakup of Ooni of Ife, Oba Adeyeye Enitan Ogunwusi,
Ojaja II, and his former wife, Olori Wuraola, which expectedly created
shockwaves and reverberated around the world, more salacious details
have since emerged.
Information gleaned from various social media
platforms and other sources indicate that both parties, prior to being
joined in matrimony, were divorcees, who had been involved in failed
marriages.
Sunday Sun gathered that the ex-Olori Wuruola, who has
reverted to her maiden name, Zaynab Otiti-Obanor, following the
breakup, had been married twice, thereby making her failed marriage to
Ooni the third marital union that crashed. On his part, the Ooni had
been garlanded with the medals of two failed marriages before his latest
(and third) broken union.
In the face of the serial divorce now
associated with both the Ooni and his ex-queen, a serious twist has
been added to the tale as an expert on Yoruba culture and renowned Ifa
priest, Chief Yemi Elebuibon has revealed that ex-Olori Wuraola, must
necessarily undergo appropriate traditional cleansing process to enable
her to regain normal life.
While noting that Ooni would not be
the first Yoruba Oba to be seperated from his wife, Elebuibon stressed,
however, that marriage breakup is not very common among Yoruba Obas.
However,
if the breakup happens as in the case of the Ooni and his wife, he said
that, “the wife of the Oba will be asked to consult Ifa and Ifa will
give directions on how she will make the necessary atonement for her
cleansing.”
He explained further: “In Yoruba tradition, a woman
who has been married to a king cannot lay with any other man even if the
marriage breaks up. But when the right atonements have been made, there
won’t be problem.”
On the kind of problems which an Oba’s
ex-wife might encounter if she refused to undergo the traditional
cleansing rites, Elebuibon said: “For the woman, she might not really
have a problem but for any man who sleeps with a queen or marries an
ex-queen without the appropriate cleansing, the man may die prematurely,
he may be struck with sickness or there might be retrogression in his
life.”
He explained that if an ex-queen wants to remarry, she
will have to do the cleansing with her new husband. Both of them have to
take part in the atonement procedures so that they won’t have any
future problem.
“Any marriage she would be going into must not be
elaborate. They should go far away and avoid any flamboyant wedding,”
Elebuibon warned.
The news of the breakup between the Ooni and
the ex-Olori, confirmed stories that had been circulating for months on
blogs, social media and some magazines, to the effect that the marriage
was troubled.
But, last Wednesday, Olori Wuraola Zynab Ogunwusi,
released an official statement on her Instagram page to confirm that her
17-month marriage to the one of the most revered monarchs in Yoruba
land had broken down irretrievably and was officially over.
Although,
both parties have refused to give reasons for the breakup, in her
statement, the ex-queen stated that the failed marriage was not as a
result of infidelity or infertility on her part.
Her words: “We
have got to stop this culture of shaming and vilifying women with false
stories of infidelity and nefarious behaviour. The spreading of false
information (through “sources” afraid to be identified), is the mark of
cowardice and a cover up for guilty parties to justify their horrific
actions. There is absolutely no truth to the media circulated lies of
infidelity and infertility – on my end.”
Although, Oba Adeyeye
Enitan Ogunwusi, has not issued a statement, it is glaring that the once
fairytale marriage has finally packed up.
Genesis of the breakup
The
collapse of the marriage can be traced to the very beginning. Some
people believe that one of the reasons the marriage failed was because
Ooni made a hasty decision to get married to the ex-Olori, while others
opined that the breakup happened because they didn’t court for long.
Ooni was an eligible bachelor when he came to the throne and as the
tradition demanded, he needed a wife and so he was introduced to
Wuraola. As at that time, there were speculations that Wuraola was
married to a Lebanese businessman but when the Ooni became serious that
he wanted Olori Wuraola as a wife, she left the Lebanese to become the
queen of Ife.
According to Linda Ikeji’s blog in February 2016,
Olori Wuraola was still with the Lebanese businessman: “She was with
this guy in February 2016. In fact, she had their photo on her WhatsApp
DP and just the following month, in March, she was married to the Ooni.
We were all surprised.”
Many reports alleged that the Ooni was
advised by many well respected Nigerians not to marry her. The former
president, Olusegun Obasanjo was also mentioned as one of the well
respected Nigerians who told the Ooni not to marry the former Olori but
he refused. There are also reports that Olori Wuraola had earlier been
married to a former governor.
Another reason given, for the
breakup was that the former Olori expected so much from the Ooni and
when the expectations were not met, a friction began developing in their
relationship. The Ooni on his part was said to have started to doubt
her loyalty to him. It was claimed that there was an issue of text
messages found on her phone. Also, there was an instance when she
travelled abroad without her being accompanied and so many other sundry
issues that made the Oba say he was no longer interested.
However,
there are also speculations that the ex-Olori left because she was
aware that Ooni wanted to take more wives and, according to sources,
this didn’t sit well with her.
Queen between tradition and modernity
The
ex-Olori once spoke at the Emerging Women’s Forum, in Maryland, USA,
stating that she was not a fan of gender equality, which she felt limits
women.
“I am not a huge fan of gender equality. We can’t be
equal, we can’t be men. We have our roles to play here, a very pivotal
one. The modern pattern of feminism has succeeded in limiting women and
denying them of the heights they could reach; gender equality is
unrealistic.”
However, sources from some quarters claimed that
the comments at the American forum were more like the Ooni spoke through
her. Many believe that the former Olori was not well schooled in the
traditional role of a queen of the Ooni. According to the Yoruba
tradition, a queen is trained to worship the ground on which his king
walks upon. She is not allowed to ask questions and must be in total
submission to the Ooni and she would dare not speak back at him. A woman
who is married to an Ooni cannot exhibit any modern traits if she wants
her marriage to succeed. There are speculations that the ex-Olori
behaved otherwise. This was seen as an abomination and it ran contrary
to the traditional role of an Ooni’s queen
Is there a new Olori about to be unveiled?
Days
before the former Olori announced her failed marriage, there were
speculations that the Ooni had married a new wife, whose name was given
as Bolanle.
The word out is that Bolanle had always been in the
picture. In fact, many people had assumed that she was going to be the
Olori before Wuraola snatched the queen’s crown, albeit briefly. Some
sources said that Bolanle might be the new Olori. Even though the
information about her is still very sketchy, the same source revealed
that Bolanle is also fair-skinned like the former Olori.
However,
Bolanle won’t be the only Olori at the Ooni’s palace; two women are
also said to be coming to join the Ooni’s group of wives. One of them is
a classy lady who works with one of the big telecommunications
companies in the country and the other whose full identity is not yet
known is said to live abroad.
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